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Are You Just A Friend Or Her Boyfriends? Here Are 10 Sign That Shows You Are Just A Friend

Here is a list of signs she just wants to be friends and does not regard you as anything more.

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  • 1. She almost always wants to meet you at the location, instead of letting you pick her up and drive.
  • 2. She discusses her romantic life with you
  • 3. She uses the F-word
  • 4. When you talk about what you like in a woman, she DOES NOT make comments of how she is like that.
  • 5. She never makes an effort to change her appearance around you.
  • 6. She stays away from you in public
  • 7. She makes no moves or hints.
  • 8. She frequently positions her body "away" from you.
  • 9. There is minimum physical contact between you two.
  • 10. She invites other people too when you two go out

Once you are friend zoned, there is very little possibility of being more than friends with her. She may like spending time with you, enjoy talking to you and agree on most things, but that does not imply that she longs for anything more than friendship. So many bonds have been ruined due to one-sided feelings or misinterpretation of demeanor. It gets extremely awkward and no person wants to be in that situation.

It is not possible to govern your feelings for someone. However, it is possible to avoid humiliation in a mortifying situation where you confess to having feelings for her and she tells you that she has never thought of you that way, with that sickening look of pity crossing her face. There is a very fine line between platonic love and romance. It is easy to confuse camaraderie for chemistry. So, how do you look for signs she just want to be friends?

Here is a list of signs she just wants to be friends and does not regard you as anything more.

  1. She almost always wants to meet you at the location, instead of letting you pick her up and drive.

Meeting at the location of a date is becoming more and more common, however a woman who is attracted to a guy will often find reasons to have him pick her up. Not always, but frequently. The thing you want to look for here is, does she always (or almost always decline when you offer to pick her up on the date? A woman’s safety is much more on her mind than it is on a guy’s mind, so she will be more concerned about you knowing where she lives if she is not attracted to you.

  1. She discusses her romantic life with you

Some may mistake this for a ploy to see if you get jealous. In that case, she will be as subtle as she can. However, if she is blunt and direct about past dates she has had or how much of a jerk her current date is, she might be thinking of you as her agony aunt friend. Moreover, if she talks about how much she likes this other guy she’s seeing or about the little quirks of his that she finds adorable, she is definitely not attracted to you.

  1. She uses the F-word

No, not the good F-word. The word she uses is much nastier: friends. If a woman addresses you with the word “friend,” you are dead in the water. You never want to be friends with a girl you’re attracted to.

  1. When you talk about what you like in a woman, she DOES NOT make comments of how she is like that.

This is one that many, MANY guys fail to notice. When you are telling a woman what YOU like in a woman that attracts you, that is very much like a “job interview.” As such, any woman who is attracted to “applying for the position” will point out, even if only subtly, that she matches what you are describing.

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  1. She never makes an effort to change her appearance around you.

You may argue that she doesn’t have to, that she is pretty enough or about the fact that she is comfortable enough around you to not care. The thing is that we do not bother to change anything about the way we look when we are around people whom we don’t want to impress – like our family or close friends. The moment you like someone, you start feeling self-conscious about yourself around them. You may not dress up for them, but at least you don’t want to resemble a rag picker when they see you either. If she is mostly dressed in sweatshirts and pjs around you, know that she does not harbor any secret feelings for you.

  1. She stays away from you in public

If she isn’t interested in you, she certainly doesn’t want anyone to mistakenly think that she is. Accordingly, she will avoid being seen “coupled up” with you at classic date spots. If she rejects all your invitations to the coffee shop, the bar, dinner, and the movies, you’re likely barking up the wrong tree.

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Suppose you two go out to a nightspot and she systematically avoids being spotted by her friends. If she’s in stealth-mode, it should tell you that she doesn’t want her peers to think there’s something going on between you.

  1. She makes no moves or hints

On rare occasions when you are not surrounded by other friends, she talks to you normally. There are no coy glances and subtle indications or any traces of tension between you two. Even when you are drinking and your inhibitions are lowered, her attitude does not change. Even when she’s sad and vulnerable, all she needs from you is a shoulder to cry on, and nothing more. This is another obvious sign.

  1. She frequently positions her body “away” from you.

This one you really need to pay attention to. In fact, if you really want to know if that female friend thinks of you and her as JUST FRIENDS, have some pictures taken of you together.

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Then notice her positioning in relation to you.

  1. There is minimum physical contact between you two.

When you are attracted to a person, you automatically long for their touch. A brush on the arm, a pat on the shoulder, nudge here, a tap there – in the most casual ways. The fact that she is making no attempt to receive your warmth or initiate on her own obviously means that she is trying not to send any signals or lead you on. Also, when a person does not show any signs of inclination to touch you or be touched, don’t try to be overly familiar; respect their space.

  1. She invites other people too when you two go out.

This re-affirms the fact that she doesn’t want you all to herself. She is willing to share your company with other people. It probably means that she sees you the way she sees all her other friends. Perhaps, calling other people is to ensure that you know that this, in no way, is a date.

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Paul Ejike Ugwu AKA Paul White is a computer science student at the National Open University of Nigeria (NOUN). I love living in the moment, webdesign and programming are my passion. I can spend a whole day looking for good information online and sharing my view on various topics. You can connect with me using any of my social network handle bellow.

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